4 Rules For Teaching Your Children To Share

Here are some tips and rules that can help you teach your children to share with other children and adults.

If your child has no siblings, you should raise and treat it as if it had siblings

Although not always in this way, it tends to come less naturally for children without siblings to share. This is because they have been the center of their parents since they were born. They have not had to share attention and time with others.

So, if you have an only child, do not raise it to believe that it deserves everything. Nor should everyone else treat it like royalty.

All family members should participate actively in household chores, without exception. Goods that are brought into the home should be shared with everyone. If you suddenly have a little extra money left in your budget, buy a toy for the child, some perfume for mom and a new shirt for dad. This is because everyone deserves to be treated equally.

Do not force them to share

One of the most important rules to teach your children to share is to not force them to do so.

When another person forces you to perform an action and obeys his will, it generally has the opposite effect. The person responds by rebelling. Or it works and he shares, but at the expense of his happiness.

Never force your children to share. If they do not want to let their friends use their favorite car when they come over to your house, do not take it out of the hiding place where your little boy or girl has hidden it. Do not give the car to the other child. By doing so, you will only make them rage. In addition, they will lose their trust in you.

A better option is to talk to your son or daughter. Discuss how the other children will feel if they are allowed to play with the toy. Do this before their friends show up. Remind them of the times they visited their friends’ houses and they shared their toys with each other.

Use all possible tools so that your children feel comfortable watching others play with their toys. And do it before the group arrives. But if you still, after all the preparations, have not succeeded in convincing your children, do not force them to share.

The moment will come when you reach your goal.

Teach them to share by doing it themselves

Your children learn from the adults around them. So teach them to share, by doing the same with them. Be yourself a role model.

Your children see their best teacher in you. If you tend to be a selfish person who is too possessive and haughty about your possessions, you will not be able to expect your children to behave very differently.

For this reason, you need to be less protective and more generous with your things. At least if you want to teach your kids to share.

If we are dealing with valuable objects that can break, we can still share. Let your children sit on the bed to avoid accidents. Let them look at it, touch it, hold it and explore it with you.

Remember that they must see with their own eyes and experience for themselves how good it feels when someone shares with them. When they get to feel how good it feels when others share their belongings with them and let them use even their most valuable objects.

Only then can they be more open to giving others the same feeling when they share.

Also share the good feelings

When we talk about sharing, we often think of lending one of our possessions or offering other food that we have. However, emotions are shared as much as material things. This is basic when teaching your children to share.

Hugs, funny stories, kisses, loving words, praise… all these actions cause loving feelings to be shared. Shared happiness is double happiness.

Your children should know what love means and what makes people share feelings with others. For example, how we exchange hugs or kisses when we say goodbye to someone and do good deeds.

If they have a chance to spread happiness to someone else by bringing them good news, let them do it. This is also to share.

Everything that is good and good within them should be shared with those around them and the people they are dealing with, including strangers.

Finally, to teach your children to share, tell them that you never support the bad behaviors of others. That you do not base your behavior and actions on what others do or do not do.

Those who know how to share will have a better life than those who never learn to do so.