Even Mothers Cry From Exhaustion, Stress And Fear

There are days when even the “super mother” reaches her limit and breaks down in tears – because even mothers cry. She can no longer cope with it and her exhaustion captivates her until she hangs her shiny armor on the shelf to expose a woman who only needs a little time alone.

If this has happened to you, do not worry or think that you are falling into the abyss of depression. The stress of raising one or more children combined with other factors can lead to tough periods.

In these moments , it is necessary to stop, de-stress and gather thoughts as well as emotions.

Even if we are talking about “mothers” , we must also be very aware that fathers can also go through the same thing. Believe it or not, but it can have its own benefits.

We all aim to be the best mothers and fathers we can be. We try to control our child’s growth while giving the best of ourselves.

It is not easy to have the same high demands on oneself every day. Reaching our limit is realizing that even though children are our highest priority, we must also take care of ourselves.

You will not be a bad mother because you give yourself an hour of rest. No one has the right to criticize you for taking care of yourself, or even pampering yourself.

It’s the only way to give the best of yourself to your children. We suggest you reflect on that.

Physical and mental exhaustion

Experiencing exhaustion is not synonymous with being tired of your children. Saying “I can’t take it anymore” is not a sign of weakness. Moms cry too, and that’s all right.

Sometimes remorse we feel is thought to be so much worse than the burden of physical and mental exhaustion. Therefore, it is important to understand and rationalize certain basic aspects:

“Multitasking” as a mom or dad

Children do not raise themselves. They need 150% of our attention, constantly. As if that were not enough, we must give the children the necessary attention and education while we have a house or a job to take care of.

Multitasking can be one of the most exhausting enemies. We can be effective at it for a month, two months or even five months, but there comes a point when our minds and bodies cannot keep up with exhaustion.

When our inner voice says “I have to do everything” but our brain responds with “I can not do anything more” stress begins to take its toll on our bodies.

• Fatigue results in pain. Our limbs and legs begin to hurt; we feel a pressure in the chest.
• The heart rate increases, we suffer from indigestion, episodes of diarrhea and constipation.
• When we reach the limit, we sometimes respond inappropriately, with words like “hold the flap” and “leave me alone”, almost without thinking about it. These are words we say without thinking about our children’s feelings, and it can also upset us.

The pressure from high demands

We have intense pressure and demands from society, the family and even ourselves. We want to be “super moms” who always keep us updated on parenting. Mothers who give their best to their children, and intend to have happy, smart and responsible children…

Mothers also cry, but that does not mean that we do not give our children a fantastic upbringing. Parents need to learn to enjoy the small moments of everyday life. This is something that stress does not allow us to do.

Even mothers cry, and it is as necessary as taking care of ourselves

We must understand that it is not necessary or recommended to be “the perfect mother or father”. The key is to know how to be present when the children need us.

Once you understand this, try to reflect on the following advice:

• When it comes to educating and caring for a child, every day will be different, and different things will be required of you. Tackle these challenges calmly and without too much worry. Live in the now, the here and now, with your children.
• It’s okay to cry, and it’s okay if your kids see you crying. Tell them that “mom needs a little while” and that everyone needs to cry from time to time to become “stronger”. Remember that emotional outlet is always good.

• Do not carry all the responsibilities, fears, pressures and doubts on your shoulders. Share them with your partner and family. Ask your pediatrician if you have any doubts or concerns about your child.
• You have the right to enjoy free time, relaxation and solitude. You will not be a “bad mother” because you give yourself an hour or two a day, even though we know that it is often difficult to get away from it for so long.
• Find support in your friendship group and with other mothers. In these groups you can share experiences and discover that you are not actually the only one who cries in secret, feels exhausted and experiences doubt.

It is a normal process that makes us more aware of ourselves. It also helps us to see where we can improve.

Enjoy the adventure of being a mom, but never neglect yourself. You are the most important person for your children.

Moms cry too, and that’s all right.