I Just Know I Love You, My Son

My son, from the moment I knew I had a life inside me… I knew I loved you.

We know that maternal love can reach many aspects of the human being and that it is important for development. In the extended version of the book “ Maternal Love ” (2016), the British psychotherapist Sue Gerhardt explores this aspect through the relationship between the brain and human emotions.

Dr. Gerhardt admits that the pace of modern life has led her to reflect on love and its nature in different areas, always from an empirical point of view. That is why she has already published several books in which she has devoted herself to analyzing the cerebral aspects of love.

Gerhardt is considered the foremost expert in the world in his field. She believes that the way we show or do not show our love for our babies leads to a series of biochemical changes in the baby’s brain. She says that a baby’s brain between the ages of 0 and 2 is very susceptible to influence, especially those from lived experiences with their guardians.

In other words, Dr. Gerhardt says that love can make such a big impression on babies’ early childhood that their mental health will largely depend on it.

If the baby is taken care of and loved, it will thus develop good mental health later. If affection and care are not given much importance during early childhood, the baby will not be able to tolerate the stress of feeling vulnerable.

Remember that a baby cannot stand on its own. A baby needs a person who takes care of and loves him, whether it is a mother, father, family member or other caregiver.

Other offspring from mammals in the animal kingdom manage to get up, walk and even run within a few hours of birth. A human being cannot take care of himself at all in his early childhood. His development is going at a much more gradual pace.

In Maternal Love , the doctor also explains the importance of being present for his baby and making him feel safe. According to her research , babies need help to tolerate stress in all aspects after birth.

Leaving the womb is a change so abrupt for babies that they constantly need their mother’s love and physical closeness to her to overcome this first major stress.

The interaction we establish with our babies from the moment they are born leaves a great impression on them. Hence the importance of leaving this mark in a positive way, as it lasts a long time and constitutes a transcendental experience.

Here is a letter that illustrates what maternal love is capable of during early childhood. You will see that your baby also receives nourishment from the love you give him, and the more you give him attention and affection, the better he will feel in the world and with you.

My son, I love you more than anything in life. Even before you were born, I loved you.

With the magic spark when I first learned that I was going to be a mother, a donor of life, my heart showed all its capacity for affection. Since then I have not held back this great love, and I give it to you in all I do and all I am.

When I look at you, I realize that life has gotten a lot better since I got you. You, my beloved, are the reason I wake up every morning, why I tackle this aggressive world, full of problems and new demands.

For you, I exceed everything. Because I love you and above all I want you to be happy. I often think that my love for you will give me the strength to overcome all obstacles and become a better person.

My love for you is the most powerful feeling I have, and you do not have to say anything for me to remember my duties to you. I love you only because of the fact that you are the fruit of life I managed to create. My baby.

I know that I am capable of loving you as I do because I know that I too was loved just because I existed.

Now that you’re a baby, ask me to be with you constantly because your more basic, instinctive needs indicate that it’s the best way to survive. You and I know that we are social beings and that love shapes our lives. In love we become stronger.

In time, you will be able to love as much as I do. I’ll be there to make sure you can handle it. By my side you will learn that beyond survival there is something very beautiful, sweet and widespread called love.

The truth is, I just know I love you, and that’s enough for me.